I Wish I Didn’t Have Aspergers
I wish….I had known I had Aspergers ages ago! It would have made acceptance so much easier. It would have put all the pieces of the puzzle in the right spot a lot earlier on in life. I am 41 now, and only just figuring out what it means to be an ‘Aspie’.
Yes, there are clear downsides to Aspergers….tons of them. But they mean nothing compared to the benefits: my hyperfocus allows me to be good at what I do for a living; my dogged determination helps me to achieve whatever I set my mind to.
As far as the negative aspects go….when you are young, you learn a number of coping mechanisms for your ‘quirks’. Make sure you cultivate them well, they will last you a lifetime.
I’ve learned to shape my life in the way it is easiest to live with AS. That means that I don’t work in an office with colleagues, but all by myself. It means that I don’t go to events where there are large groups of people. It means I use earplugs whenever I feel the noise is getting to me. My best advice to someone who’s learning to live with Aspergers is: make sure your life fits you. Don’t do the things that make you meltdown. Surround yourself with people who are willing to understand you, and help you when you need it. Retreat when you need to. And do the things you really want to do, in your own way.
I’ve been places, I’ve studied in foreign countries, I’ve got a mortgage, I have my own company. All thanks to Aspergers, because that is part of who I am. Not all of it, but an important part of it….